The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce and Other Losses


  • Bury your feelings
  • Replace the loss
  • Time heals all wounds
  • Be strong for others
  • Grieve alone

Your feelings are normal and natural.  The problem is that we have been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural.

Your loss may have been from:

  • Death
  • Divorce or the end of a relationship
  • Loss of a career
  • Loss of faith
  • Loss of safety
  • Pet loss
  • Financial loss



The normal and natural reaction to any significant emotional loss is GRIEF.   Unfortunately grief is often one of society’s least understood and most off-limits topic for discussion.  Often grievers feel totally alone, trying to deal with the conflicting emotions caused by loss.

Sadness, fear, anger, confusion, inability to concentrate, and sleeplessness are just some of the normal symptoms of grief.  Sometimes the pain feels like it could continue forever.  GRIEF HURTS!

The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program provides you with a safe environment and accurate information about grief:

  • You will learn how to identify and communicate about your losses.
  • You will learn the specific actions that will help you eliminate the sense of incompleteness which accompanies unresolved grief.
  • You may have may have learned an accumulation of unhelpful information about how to deal with loss.
  • Recovery from loss is achieved by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever.



The purpose of The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Program is to help you learn appropriate skills that lead to successful completion of relationships that have ended or changed.  The program uses a format designed and written by The Grief Recovery Institute®.  It creates an environment in which you can learn and practice the new actions that lead to recovery.  You will participate in exercises that will guide you through the process of Awareness, Acceptance, Recovery, Action, and Moving Beyond Loss.

Attending the Outreach Program means you’re “open to your grief.”  It means you’re open to beginning a process of recovery that will actually embrace you life rather than limit it.  You attend the Outreach Program because of what’s right with you, not what’s wrong.


I have two half-hour presentations.  Each one contains information about debunking the myths of grief (I’ll write more about each myth on the blog site) and what to say (or not!) to someone who is in the throes of grief.

One is titled “Grieving the Loss of Pets – (and Other Important People).  Your pet never said you were fat, ugly or stupid.”  So often family and friends do not understand the intensity of emotions that can be felt when a pet dies.

The other is titled “My Journey through Grief.”  I found out firsthand how devastating grief can be, how unprepared and uneducated I was to handle grief, how disconnected the heart and mind can be, and how well intentioned people can say the most unhelpful things.

Each presentation can be used for a “Lunch and Learn” in professional settings (veterinaries, dental offices, senior centers ) or for breakfast meetings (Rotary Club, for example).



Although I’m available to do One-on-One 7-Session Programs as well as an 8-Week Group Programs, The Grief Recovery Institute has put together a new 6-Week Pet Loss Support Group which I would like to offer in the Spring ’16.  The date and place are yet to be determined.

The Grief Recovery Method® 6-Week Pet Loss Support Group is based on the new book, The Grief Recovery Handbook for Pet Loss by Russell Friedman, Cole James and John W. James.  The program includes the book as well as all the homework.  Yes, there is homework.

What makes The Grief Recovery Method programs different from all other programs is that there is a beginning, a middle and an end, unlike drop-in groups in which people come and go.  The Grief Recovery Method programs are totally confidential, contained and limited to 12 max.  Each session is 2 hours.

Why a Pet Loss Support Group?  Why not include those who have lost pets into one of the other programs?  Because those who have lost pets often feel judged and alienated by others.  They often feel alone in their grief, pain and suffering.  So often they have heard, “Don’t feel bad, it was only a dog” or “It was only a cat.”  “Don’t feel bad, you can always get another one” is another biggie.  The intention of those speaking may be well, but the impact is not.  Our society has not been educated on how to grieve or to help others in a useful way!



John W. James is the Founder and Russell P. Friedman is the Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute®.

They have felt the pain, isolation and confusion caused by loss.  A strong belief in spiritual principles coupled with trial and experience led them to discover a simple, yet effective, method of completing relationships that have ended through death or separation.  They are the authors of The Grief Recovery Handbook (20th Anniversary Expanded Edition)-The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses including Health, Career, and Faith.