I didn’t choose grief. Grief chose me on the 4th of July weekend 1999 – a hot, sunny weekend. My oldest daughter’s fiancee, Justin Kramer, took off in his single-engine plane from the Boulder Airport in Colorado bound for the southwest part of the state. He never made it. And his body wasn’t discovered for days later.
We were devastated and heart-broken – the loss of him, the loss of dreams of a family, the loss of a son-in-law, the loss of an Outward Bound instructor, the loss of a Denali National Park Ranger – he was all that and more. Over and over we heard, “Don’t feel bad, he led a full life.” That statement, “he led a full life,” may have been true, but it did nothing to heal the intense pain in our hearts.
Desparate to find relief from that pain, my husband came upon The Grief Recovery Handbook-Revised Edition-The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses written by John W. James and Russell Friedman of the Grief Recovery Institute. At last! A down-to-earth, practical, no-nonsense approach to healing the heart!! The Grief Recovery Method® made such a difference in my life, that I undertook the certification training in 2001 and am a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®. I have been doing The Grief Recovery Method® Outreach Programs (8 weeks) and One on One Programs (7 weeks) ever since.
The tools learned through the Grief Recovery Method helped me when I was working as a dental hygienist. I was comfortable with the grief and the losses my patients brought with them. And now I am also a hospice volunteer with TRU Community Care in Boulder, CO.